Thursday, August 20, 2020

Bridal Shower Anxiety

Bridal Shower Anxiety Social Anxiety Disorder Coping Print Bridal Shower Anxiety 10 Tips to Be Less Nervous at Your Bridal Shower By Arlin Cuncic Arlin Cuncic, MA, is the author of Therapy in Focus: What to Expect from CBT for Social Anxiety Disorder and 7 Weeks to Reduce Anxiety. Learn about our editorial policy Arlin Cuncic Updated on June 24, 2019 Social Anxiety Disorder Overview Symptoms & Diagnosis Causes Treatment Living With In Children Getty / Kirsty Lee / Eye Em If you dislike being the center of attention or live with social anxiety disorder (SAD), having a bridal shower thrown in your honor can stir up a lot of emotions. You may worry that your guests will be bored. You may be anxious about having to open gifts in front of everyone. If this is you, its time to put together a strategy to get through the event. Below are eight tips to help you cope with social anxiety at a bridal shower. Lean on the Maid of Honor Fortunately, although the bridal shower is all about the bride, it is usually up to the maid of honor to make sure the event goes smoothly. Try telling her about your anxiety and between the two of you, see if you can arrange the event in a way that makes it easier for you Whether your bridal shower is an afternoon gathering held in someones home or a night out with friends, there are adjustments you can make to ensure your anxiety does not interfere with your enjoyment of the event. A good friend should be willing to accommodate your needsâ€"after all, this is all about you! Think About Your Values One way to approach this event is by acting in a way that is in accordance with your deeply held values, as suggested by acceptance and commitment-based approaches to therapy. From this perspective, take time to evaluate whether your behavior is lined up with what you value, regardless of your level of anxiety. Examples of values and beliefs might include setting limits and boundaries, accepting that life will involve some discomfort, and showing gratitude. Even if you experience anxiety, make a point of being a gracious guest. Set Limits Have the hostess keep the shower small and intimate, inviting only people whom you know well. Limit the shower to a couple of hours. Most guests will tire of a longer shower, and keeping it short gives you a break if anxiety starts to become too much. If its a night out on the town you are planning, have an exit strategy that gets you home by a reasonable hour. Let Others Take the Lead At an afternoon gathering, it is the job of your hostess to greet people at the door. Dont feel bad about taking a seat and letting people visit with you instead of trying to become a social butterfly. Remember that your guests want to celebrate with you and shower you with gifts. Dont feel guilty if you cant make the rounds and speak with everyoneâ€"they will make time to come around and speak with you. Put Someone in Charge of Gift Opening If you are truly anxious about opening gifts in front of everyone, have someone else help you out. Your future spouse or a younger relative could help, or you could even pass gifts out to the group and have everyone open a gift one-by-one. Keep Worry in Check While it is easy to start worrying about whether everyone is enjoying themselves and if they want to be there, try not to spend time  worrying about guests being bored. Most guests will be interested to see what gifts you have received and catch up with each other. Since youve set a time limit as well, guests who arent enjoying themselves wont have to stay all that long. Dealing with Gifts Gift registries may take the spontaneity out of gift-giving but they can be a lifesaver for the anxious bride. By giving guests a registry list, you avoid having to pretend to like something that you will never use. While games designed to embarrass you should be avoided, games that keep guests busy and interested can be useful. For example, during gift opening, your guests could play bingo. Hand out blank bingo cards and have everyone write in the gifts that they think you will receive. As the gifts are opened, guests mark their cards until someone yells Bingo! As another alternative, have the hostess serve cake right before gift opening to take the focus off of you. Show Gratitude No matter how anxious you are during the shower, remember to be gracious. Hold up each gift for everyone to see, smile at the person who gave it to you and thank them. Thank your guests for coming as they leave. After the shower, send out thank you cards to your guests. Take the time to write a special note to each person, especially if you feel that your anxiety prevented you from connecting with them at the shower.   Boost Your Oxytocin Research shows that oxytocin (also known as the love hormone) is also a bit of an antidote for social anxiety. You can boost your oxytocin by petting an animal or hugging a loved one before the showerâ€"or taking a quick break mid-event to gather up some of that feel-good hormone. A Word From Verywell In the end, try not to focus too much on being the center of attention for an afternoon. Your friends and family want to celebrate with you and give you gifts. Try to take some enjoyment from the event and treasure your special time as the guest of honor.

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